When Your Relationship is On the Rocks?

by | Aug 17, 2009 | Relationship Languages

Couples get married with the intention of it lasting forever. Unfortunately, sometimes there can be rough situations that you or your spouse cannot handle properly leading to divorce. You can save your relationship but it will take some effort. There are some tips you can use to save your marriage.

1. If your marriage is in crisis, don’t show your partner that you’re panicking. Showing desperation will make them feel suffocated and will push him or her even further away. You must try to keep calm and in control of your emotions.

2. Don’t beg or plead with your partner to get them to return. This just shows them what depths you will go to in order to win them back. You give away your power. You’ll then feel humiliated when they don’t respond to your pleas and feel your self-esteem drop.

3. If they want space, give them space. Spend time doing those things that make you feel strong and good about yourself. Spend time with your family and your friends. Do things which increase your self-esteem.

4. If your partner is aggressive towards you, do not lash out in return. Be calm and in control and with this attitude, you will begin to feel this attitude.

5. Finally and most importantly, you must realize that you have a choice. Either react to the situation you’re in (by complaining about your marriage or allowing yourself to be flooded in negative emotions) or change your behavior! Don’t focus on trying to change your partner’s behavior but focus on changing yours. Ultimately, how you choose to respond to their behavior will decide how you feel so that you can regain your power.

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Dr. Dar Hawks. Relationship Coach for Couples

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Hi, I’m Dr. Dar…

If I could share just one thing with you today, let it be this: you have the power to shape your relationship into what you want it to be.

I am Dar, the Relationship Healer. I help couples to solve the communication and relationship issues that could potentially tear them apart. 

Until I started on the coaching path that led to my formulation of the Relationship Languages, most of the problems in my life had been due to problematic relationships… relationships where I felt unable to communicate, where I was not being heard, where I was not feeling understood. 

I have learned that, to create happy, healthy, and harmonious relationships even when you have differences, you have to learn how to give and receive communication in a healthy way. You have to feel safe expressing how you feel and what you need. 

That’s the beauty of the Relationship Languages. Once understood, they are the key to safe, curious communication. 

I’m here to help you on your journey to understanding and being understood. 

From my heart to yours,

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