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How to Manage Your Energy When You’re Frustrated With Your Partner

by | Apr 17, 2023 | Relationship Behaviors | 0 comments

Managing Your Energy in Moments of Frustration or Anger with Your Partner

As humans, we’re bound to face moments of frustration or anger with our partners. These moments can lead to arguments making us feel badly about ourselves, and even having doubts about the health or worth of our relationship.

But what if there was a way to manage that emotional energy and turn the conversation into a constructive one?

Managing your energy can help

In situations where you find yourself getting frustrated, even angry with your partner, managing your energy involves consciously working on your emotional state and energy output as opposed to impulsive and reactive reactions. This approach helps you to respond skillfully in the heat of the moment and ultimately benefit from more positive outcomes, getting more of what you want and need.

Here are a few reasons why managing your energy is an essential tool for any relationship:

Creates Self-Awareness – when we manage our energy, we become more aware of our inner state and how it influences our attitude, behavior, and communication.

Models Clean and Curious Communication – Managing our energy helps us express our emotions and expectations of the situation clearly and compassionately, which in turn helps model good communication habits.

Reduces Stress – Reducing our reactive patterns can help reduce tension and stress in conversations, also as fewer arguments lead to a healthier we experience overall.

Strengthens Empathy – By taking the time to note our partner’s needs and their point of view in arguments, we develop a deeper, more meaningful connection with them.

Promotes Constructive Conflict Resolution – When we take the time to manage our energy, we can engage in a conversation that leads to a constructive outcome.

To put these benefits into action, here are some examples of how to manage your energy in moments of frustration or anger with your partner:

Practice self-awareness: Take a deep breath or two, and check in with what you’re feeling. When we’re in the heat of the moment, stress can often cloud our judgment, so checking in can help realign ourselves with our inner state.

Practice empathy: Prime yourself for listening to your partner’s point of view as opposed to focusing solely on your own. This can help defuse a conversation and lead to a more productive outcome overall.

Take breaks: If things feel too overwhelming during an argument, it’s important to take breaks, cool off, and come back to the discussion when you’re feeling more level-headed.

Use ‘I’ statements – Avoid finger-pointing or accusatory language, it can help steer the conversation away from the blame game and create a more collaborative atmosphere.

Leverage helpful tools: Using mediation apps like ‘Calm’ or practicing mindfulness techniques such as breath work or visualization can help dissipate anger, frustration and focus more on creating inner positivity.

Managing your energy can have profound and far-reaching effects on your relationship as a couple. Through self-awareness, empathy, and use of different tools, partners can break down defensive walls and create space for more meaningful and compassionate communication.

Remember, the goal is not to be perfect but to create an environment of safe, mutual support and growth with your partner.

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